Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Monday, December 15, 2008
Tuesday, December 09, 2008
The trick here is that her lyrics may be taken as a broad stereotype, addressing the likes of what is believed to be the nature of man–conniving, carefree, and unknowing towards a women’s perspective. OR the lyrics could be addressing a very personal, intimate relationship between a man and woman, but generalized in the the attempt to make it LESS personal. This way more folks can relate. Sometimes writers will come out and say, “Peter is a low-down, dirty, non-committing bastard who turns his phone off at night” while being sure to throw in some rhymes, but like you stated…this is pop culture. Appeal to the masses. Generalize. Broaden. Almost every straight woman has had her heart broken by a man, so why not speak to that? True, many women may not have been deceived or cheated on, but I can almost guarantee she feels “taken…for granted” in some sense of the word.
Now, my favorite part. Don’t confuse Beyonce the artist with Beyonce the person, hence the name of her album “I am…Sasha Fierce”. Beyonce didn’t even write this song; she just recorded it and now performs it. She probably doesn’t even WANT to leave the house without makeup, her oversized LV bag, and designer sunglasses!! Ok, I’m speculating now, but seriously. Of COURSE she’s going to be a sexy cop and have men hope to see her in her panties…how ELSE is she going to get that other half of the population to watch that stinkin video????? lol
And since I can, I will take the argument of all the misogynist artists out there with airplay: This song isn’t referring to ALL men, just the men who suck (We’re not saying ALL women are b*tches and hoes, just the ones who are). And like the women who feel berated by afore mentioned music, I encourage all the men who feel slighted by this Beyonce track to get a men’s group together and talk about how it makes you feel. And BE SURE to talk to the young men coming up behind you. Tell them that although Beyonce stereotypes men in this song, this is no reason to fall into the trap of being a “bad man”. And let them know that the writer of the song may have some personal issues that she needs to deal with. AND tell them that music labels are all about the dollar, so we can’t expect much from them.
Don’t get me wrong, I believe and support you when you deliberate “Why can’t she take the lyrics of the song a step further, beyond cliched stereotypes of gender roles in America? She has the voice. She has the audience. What more is necessary?” Much like how a friend of mine feels about Michael Jordan…not making any sort of public statements that give back to the community after we have helped make him the billionairre that he is. This is the business of entertainment, people. In America! While we would hope entertainers would give an eff, often times they don’t.
I’m not saying it’s right. I’m just saying….it is what it is.
Monday, December 08, 2008
Thursday, December 04, 2008
Tell me this necklace isn't FREAKING GORGEOUS!!! Pretty sure if you do, then you are officially not cool lol -- since I am overseeing the "cool cards" today. Sorry Charlie.
Wednesday, December 03, 2008
It’s December! Only 28 more days in the year and what have I accomplished? A few things:
Travelled extensively: LA, Palm Springs, Nashville, Knoxville, Memphis, Pittsburgh, Bronx, Miami, Tampa, San Francisco, Washington DC, South Bend IN, Chicago, and every state in between Mpls and LA!!!
Moved to Los Angeles, which means new people, new apartment, new everything.
Started a new job.
Major hair cut, color, texture changes lol
Actually, I don’t know how many of those are “accomplishments” as opposed to blessings and just needing a gosh darn change! (That Beverly Hills haircut still has my bank account in shambles!)
However….BOY am I looking forward to 2009!!!! I see financial affluence and overall pride and happiness. I celebrate a birthday early on in the year, which always sets the stage for goal-making. I only have 2 years before I turn 30, so I must make them good ones!!
My first goal is to get myself together! A major move is always a bit difficult, depending on how well-planned it was. And my move was barely quasi-planned, to say the most. So you can imagine why I feel rather discombobulated.
My second goal is career oriented. I can’t say where I’ll be, but I hope to have moved up a notch or two by the end of next year.
As far as fitness, I definitely would like to tone some things up before March rolls around. Then it’s all about maintenance!
Travelling goals?? I’d like to go to Seattle to visit my brother and TRY to get to Hawaii in the summer/fall.
I have a couple other ideas simmering, but I’ll like to keep those in the pot for awhile longer before I reveal them.
2009 will be a great year, I just know it.
Tuesday, December 02, 2008
Being married. I’m obviously still new at all this—not even four months in yet—but THIS I will tell you. There will always be somebody of the opposite sex mingling, intentionally or unintentionally, with your significant other. By mingling, I mean hanging around, being a casual “friend”, always talking about getting together for a drink, etc, etc.
Now, is this bad?
Depends on how it presents itself in the relationship.
If this person, is single and wants to hang out alone? Potentially, this could be bad.
If this person is a random, never heard from or seen prior to either person in the relationship? Again this could be potentially bad.
If you see a text message to your wife/husband that says, “Hey gorgeous…..I can’t wait to meet you!!!!” This COULD be bad. Lol (I’m just sayin….!!)
On the other hand, if the person has been around for awhile (i.e. YEARS), and you’ve all hung out before in a social setting—without feeling weird….I wouldn’t sweat it.
Or if this is (a) coworker/s who always include(s) the spouse in the plans….don’t worry too much.
Or MAYBE the other person is simply a rad person, who you KNOW is cool peoples, who respects the institution of marriage, who is a God-fearing individual, and would never reduce his/herself to home-wrecker status (which YES, should be a status setting on all social networking sites!!!). Home free.
All I’m saying is THIS:
To all the people in the world who are married or who aspire to be or who once (or twice) have been,
KEEP THE FAITH.
Marriage is bomb! Pick someone you trust, and it’ll be jam-packed with fun and adventure! J
And To all random chics in the world who may want to meet or get to know my handsomely sexy and mysterious husband,
And I’ll only say it once.